Slowly melt your grass-fed beef tallow in a stainless-steel pot or slow cooker until fully liquid. Avoid overheating.
In a well-ventilated area (I did this outside), carefully add lye (sodium hydroxide) to your distilled water (never the other way around). Stir until dissolved. The mixture will heat up — set aside to cool.
When both the melted tallow and lye solution are around 100–110°F, slowly pour the lye into the tallow.
Use an immersion blender to bring the mixture to a light trace (a pudding-like consistency).
Stir in lavender oil or your preferred essential oil blend (juniper, mandarin, or citrus oils work beautifully).
Pour the soap into a lined mold, tap gently to remove bubbles. Place dried flowers if desired, then press down with parchment paper.
Wrap with a towel and allow to sit for 24–48 hours.
Unmold and slice into bars. Allow to cure for 4–6 weeks in a cool, airy spot so the soap can dry, firm up, and yield a mild bar with a rich, creamy lather.